Sexual Economy

   During the ancient times, barter system was the trading system used by people to exchange their goods for other goods. During that time, goods has no fixed tag price yet because money was not yet invented. So they had set a certain value in every of their products and exchanged it for other products with the same cost.

  Across the centuries this system was also adopted not only in economical aspects of their lives but also in finding a woman to marry with. A dowry was given to the parents of the woman in exchange for her hand. When a man could give enough dowry, it means that he all ready for marriage and he could be a great provider to her family.

   I was surfing the internet when I came across an article entitled "Economy of sex: It’s cheap these days", and there I had found that those systems are still existing  today. Adam Smith and Dr. Ruth also said that there is an economy underlying about sex. It seems strange but it is really amazing how people do that. Sex and relationship is some how an exchange. They give each other something of themselves.

   From the basic concept tradition and modern way of Filipino courting, a man is giving or doing something for woman. This is because he wants to get the affection of the lady. This explains how sexual economy works. In order to enter a relationship, exchanges takes place. This is one of the factor  that would affect woman attention.

   Whether you believe it or not, women choose partner based on what they could offer to them. Just take a minute to think, who is the one that women will choose? A handsome guy which is as poor as rat or a not so handsome guy that could give her everything that she wants.

The Age Adversity

       Getting older also means getting wiser when it comes to dating. It is true between men and women. In fact, your preferences and taste for opposite sex is different when you were still a teenager. The standards in looking for mates starts to arise as you grow older. Who thought that age is just a number and has no bearing on dating choice? 

     Your preferences might change depending on your stage or situation in life.  People seek different things at different points in life. I was surfing the internet when i came a cross an article called " Does age influence our dating choices?" Melissa D'costa told that there was a study, conducted by a matchmaking website, reveals that as women become more mature, their preferences and taste in men change.  

     Psychiatrist Anjali Chhabria says the findings of the study are true not only for women, but men, too. She says, "What we want from a relationship when we are 16 may depend on peer pressure, hormones, ego-boost, etc. But at 25, relationships may depend more on a person's social and emotional needs. As you grow older, a relationship may depend on how much emotional, mental and financial support it gives you. This change, in my observation, is present regardless of a person's gender."

     Psychologist Mansi Hasan agrees. She says, "At 20, one may want to look cool in front of friends by having a boyfriend who is everybody's blue-eyed boy. But at 30, a woman needs a man who can take care of her and handle the responsibility of a family. At that stage, she seeks stability and security, because she is ready to start a family. Looks may no longer be a priority. In their 40's and 50's, women not only want a husband, but also a friend and companion who fulfils her in more than one way. Even men go through these changes. However, for them, physical attraction is as significant an aspect as emotional compatibility when it comes to long-lasting relationships."

    Your age is really a factor in finding a partner. As time passes by, your preferences changes. But still, there is one requirements that does not change among ages- as most women says " my main requirement is someone that made me feel special." No matter how young or old women are, they still want to be loved in any circumstances.      

         

It Takes a Life Time

       Women are really difficult to decipher. They are like different person from time to time. Most of them changes their mood easily especially on those days of their monthly visit. I still remember my high school seatmate that knocked me out because she got irritated with me. That was so damn. I didn't do anything to her but she just hit me with a thick book. That was freaking weird. But let us not assume that all women are like that.

        We all know that each women are relative with each other. However, there are common denominators that each of them posses. I was looking for a blog when I came a across an article entitled " 5 Universal facts about Women". Ross mentioned that it takes a life time to understand woman completely. However, he enumerated some of the facts that would help you understand women more. Here are the following:   


     Women like Security

       What women is always looking for is security. As Ross said, the truth 
       remains that no matter how ugly, fat, or stupid you are , if you own a 
       house in real estate drive a BMW to work, and make loads of money as 
       an Executive CEO, you best believe that women will be leaping into your 
       arms to take them home. Look at King Henry VIII, he's the equivalent of 
       Fat Bastard from the Austin Powers series, and yet he was able to score 
       with seven women because of why? Security.
 
      Women Want Attention

          Women merely needs attention. They always want to be praise or be 

        appreciated by their man. This is a fact that most man overlooked. A 

        simple complement would mean a a lot to her. Women doesn't really 

        need a plenty of time with you. Just a simple attention will do.

      Women like Confidence

      

        Women are really "hard wired to confidence". Ross agreed that this still 

        stands true in the human race, because whenever there's an asshole or  

        a douchebag who thinks he's top dog, there are bound to be a couple of 

        girls who would not hesitate to mount him. Granted women can be 

        stupid but nature has programmed women to go for the strongest or 

        most elegant genetic link. 

      These are just 3 of his 5 observations. If you want to read more of it, you can visit his article. That article could help you understand women even for a little. But I think being sensitive enough could even lead you understanding women better.

       Given the fact that women are really difficult to decipher, we man should take time understanding them even doing it really takes a lot of time. But considering it would develop and strengthen the relationship you have or you want to have. Just a simple ways could mean a lot to them. It takes a life time but its worth will never last.  

Nice Guy Syndrome

   For the past weeks, I had learned that nice guys are much putted to friendzone than those who are assholes and bastard guys. In fact when you look around, there is a number of friendzoned nice guys out there. I bet many of you know a nice guy that was lamented into the entitlement of friendzone. But do know some body who is a jerk that was putted into dreadful platonic relationship?  What is with these nice guys that make them friendzoned over and over.

    So often, we associated nice guy image as figures of pity, victims of shyness while some find it as creepy hell. As I am surfing around the internet, I came across an article entitled "The Nice Guys and Friend zone". Jonathan wrote an excellent piece on the matter, addressing nice guys. There are several things that i'd like to expand more. However, you should read the whole thing.


     2) Are You Being A Hypocrite?
          This is one of the problem with those nice guys out there. Some are  
          just pretending to be as nice as they could. They do everything to like   
          nice. Giving you something that make them look that they are  
          thoughtful, doing something something heroic that would make them 
          look 'knight in shining armor' but the real thing is just, they are doing 
          all of those just to win the girl that they desire and to make them laid.

      6) You May Not Actually Be That Nice After All
          Are you really that nice? You are complaining when the girl refuses you
          and you never told her how you feel. You keep on showing her nice 
          things; and yet, listing all of these on your mind, expecting that she 
          would return the favor back. Is that nice?


    To some women, the honesty of a guy is more important than the traits that they possesses. They would rather pick those idiot jerks than to live into the world of lies.  Women don’t only exist to date or have sex with you. As someone else in the vast feminist blogosphere once said, women are not machines that you put friendship tokens into until sex falls out. If you can't handle that simple fact, you probably aren't ready to date anyone.