The Unlocking: The Secret Key to Flirtation

     A lot of men got troubled with the basic concept of flirting. Some men might think that flirting is about quoting those cheesy lines like – If you gave me penny for my thoughts, I’d have just one penny, because I only think about one thing and that’s you. – I tell you my friend, that would not help you get your girl. Believe it or not, It may only worsen the situation.

    flirting is simply another way that two people can closely interact with each other. It can be as simple smile, it depends on your goal when you flirt with someone of interest to you. There are many possible reasons why people flirt. One of these is to show that you are interested in getting to know them better.But one of the most important aspect of flirting is the intention behind it.

   Understanding the concept of flirting might be essential for men. So i looked over the internet and found the article - The Art Of Flirting (And How To Do It). Christian, the writer of the article itself, stated that "The main problem guys have with flirting is that they relate it directly to sex. If I flirt with the girl for long enough, she's more likely to have sex with me. Women, on the other hand, view flirting as nothing more than some harmless fun with no determined end-game." Christian added, " Understanding the brain's response to flirting should help us to engage with women on their level, rather than as a covert operation to get naked with her!" Here are some of his ideas for flirting successfully without coming across like a sex-crazed lunatic:

    Keep contact to a minimum.  In previous blogs, you have learned that body contact is a very powerful weapon in the flirting world. According to James B, you should use it with caution; because if you over do it, you'll appear overbearing and creepy.  

    Avoid over-confidence. Confidence is what most women find in men. Confidence Can make you look more exciting and more interesting.   But don't you know that confidence could make or destroy your moves? Too much self-confidence could turn off women so avoid being over-confident.     

    Don't play it too cool.  Woman wants to be heard more than to listen on your lingering fables. So instead of inflicting your self trying to be cool to her, take your time to know her by listening to her stories.

      These are only three of his ideas on key to a successful flirting. If you want to read more about this matter, you can check out the article above written by christian.

      Knowing how to flirt properly may lead to a romantic relationship. It is really magical. It is like a potion that can attract woman's desire for you. However there is always a risk in dealing with girls. It mustn't be too much because it may lead to over bearing feeling. In the other hand, it mustn't be too light because your target might now receive your message. Everything must be in balance and under control.

     Practicing the proper flirtation manner may build your confidence that could attract more women. However, you should be responsible in every action that you make because it may build or destroy your personality. So be careful in using this key. 

   

Bad boys Vs. Nice Guys

Why do girls always prefer the distant, aloof, handsome, dangerous dudes instead of cheerful chaps like me?

— Roger Ebert, Twilight review.

        Who can ever forget Dwayne Johnson known as the rock, the most popular James Bond, and Robin Padilla - the "bad boy" of Philippine cinema. All of them are bunch of jerks yet they are also magnet of gorgeous, hot leading ladies. Yes, all of them posses a bad boy image and muscular physique, but what is with these guys that made them magnet of hot ladies?

        It's not only in the film bad boy look more awesome than good guys. In fact i know some woman who always go for asshole and end up crying in the shoulders of their nice guy friends who are always there for them yet never given a chance to display their affection. what a world totally abundant of friend zoned guys !

        I was surfing the internet a while a go when I check out the article entitled "Why do women like jerks and bad boys?" . Dan Bacon mentioned that, In most cases, the type of guy who is considered a “nice guy” will be less confident and masculine than a bad boy or jerk. A “nice guy” is usually a nervous, anxious type who assumes that by being really nice, a woman will think, “Wow, he's so nice. I think he would be a good boyfriend!” and then choose him. He'll be as nice and friendly and possible and wait for the woman to show that she is interested in him. Then, he'll tell her his feelings and she will reject him.  

     Well, I have a theory on this, Women doesn't like those bunches of jerks for their self alone.  Instead, it is the confidence of those assholes who attracts those gorgeous and loving women. Their confidence is the one who makes them look more exciting and more interesting. And I guess, if all those nice guys will gain more confidence for themselves, there will be no room for girls to put them into the platonic and most common cause of death-  The Friend Zone. 

  

Mr. Perfect and Ms. Perfectly Imperfect

             Hearing the word "Mr Perfect" could sound very annoying for men. It sounds like a fancy prince charming or a knight in shining armor on an old fairy tale from your childhood. Hence if you name any woman in the world, all them are looking for a Mr. Perfect; An ideal man who can stay with her forever. But what are the characteristics that makes man perfect in the eyes of a woman?

           Woman of today are becoming more unrealistic and materialistic. They set a very high expectations in electing a partner for themselves. I was surfing the internet when I saw a statement from Must-have qualities in men to be Mr. Perfect. Gunjan Jain, a writer, said "Gone are the days when women looked for some 'real' qualities in men like chivalry, intelligence, independence, reliability, etc. Sadly the women of today just look for men with the best jobs, the biggest bank accounts or the most fashionable zip codes. Ask them about their dream man and their answer has to be someone like Chuck Bass (the rich bad boy of Gossip Girl). Talk about being materialistic and unrealistic!".

        A distressful truth, Woman nowadays are more demanding when it come on entering relationships. Even though every woman is different from each other, most of them focus on physical attributes. These is a negative perception for men which may lead to insecurities and inferiorities to man.
    

Friend Zone: Always Better

                There are three zones in life that most men evade. The danger zone, no smoking zone and most especially, the malediction of FRIEND ZONE . I'm talking about the platonic relationship so called friend zone. I was 9gagging few months ago, when i found out that most of men consider friend zone as the worst scenario when it comes with courting. As a mater of fact, they consider it as game over. Some of you might say “absolutely correct!” with a convictional voice. But I have a bit different point of view with regards to friend zone.   


           Today, I was reading some popular articles about platonic relationship and came across one called  - "HowTo Keep A Guy From Putting You in the “Friend Zone".   James B mentioned that guys have it tougher when it comes to dating. Generally speaking, women expect us to take the lead, break the ice and do the pursuing. Well at the firsthand, it is our nature to initiate the first move.

James forewarned that once you’ve crossed over into that dreaded territory, it’ll be damn hard to convince your platonic friend to have romantic feelings for you.But don’t get frighten my friend, I just have a solution .  I was reading on the forums a while ago, when I headed the article - The "Friend Zone", and How to Avoid It - and found some tips on how to avoid being in trapped by friend zone. Here are some of them written by Trace Wilson:

1. Flirt it up -- Try to subtly let the person you want to date know that you would like to be more than friends. If you keep the friend mentality and don't let them know, you have a higher chance of ending up in the friend zone. However, if you do your best to flirt and make it clear you want more in the relationship, you have a higher chance of getting just that.

2. Go on actual dates -- There are many activities you can do with the person you like that let them know you want to date them. There are also activities that just scream friendship, so try to stay away from them. I would suggest things like seeing a movie, going to dinner (just the two of you, not in a group), and taking a day trip to a place like the beach.

3. Attitude counts! -- Make sure that the way you act and talk reflects the way you feel about that person. If you want more than friendship, don't act like you're their best friend, instead act like you want a genuine intimate relationship with them!

            Being in friend zone state is not worst at all. Infact, friend zone is better than stranger zone. Engaging in a platonic relationship doesn’t mean that you are always a friend zone. Time could develop the relationship that you have. Remember Bokbok and poknat on a Filipino primetime soap opera? Friend zone might be the first step on the ladder of success. It could enable you to know the girl of your dreams better. Same with her. And if not, look for another girl. There are many fish in the sea. Just remember that there is always an opportunity for those who believe. Just like James mentioned, Dating isn’t a matter of life or death! If you fell, then stood up! Find someone again. And repeat the cycle my friend! Good luck!